CHARACTER MOTIVATION THESAURUS

HAVING A CHILD



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HELPFUL TIP:

To understand why your character is driven toward a certain goal, get to know their positive and negative traits, as well as any significant emotional wounds that might be motivating them. Then you can explore the various kinds of conflict that could block them as they move toward their goal.
FORMS THIS MIGHT TAKE:
Conceiving a child with a partner
Becoming artificially inseminated (if one is single)
Undergoing fertility treatments
Adopting a child
Becoming a foster parent
Stealing a child and raising it as one's own
Buying a baby on the black market

HUMAN NEED DRIVING THE GOAL (INNER MOTIVATION):
There are five basic human needs that, when missing from a character's life, could motivate them to pursue this goal. The following needs are all possibilities, but only one of them should be the primary driver for any given character. For more information on the relationship between human needs and outer motivations, please see​ this ​Character Motivation tutorial.

Self-Actualization: Becoming a parent is a life goal for many because it becomes part of their identity. If a character believes they're incomplete because they have not yet felt that parent-child bond, it would drive them to find a way to do so.
Esteem and Recognition: Some people find themselves in situations where having a child is an expected duty, and there is a lot of pressure for them to follow through. A character who believes their self-worth is tied to their ability to procreate would be desperate to have a child so they could prove their value to their harshest critics (and themselves).  
Love and Belonging: This need may be a driving factor for characters who love deeply and want to shower that affection on a baby, or for those who feel that their existing loving relationships will be at risk if they remain childless (e.g., a partner threatening to leave if the character doesn't agree to pursue this goal).
Safety and Security: Sometimes having a child is more about ensuring future security than it is about becoming a parent. A character (most often a female) may try to get pregnant in order to secure finacial stability from their partner, especially if this is something they are deeply worried about (because they are unable to provide for themselves, they have been mistreated and so safety is an ever-present concern, or they have suffered past hardships and refuse to do so again). 
Physiological Needs: In extreme situations, a character may fear for the future of their race and so feel driven to procreate. The need to propagate the species is a hard-wired survival instinct and is difficult to ignore. A more common scenario is when a character ages or has a brush with death, and they realize that they won't live forever. In this case, they may be driven to have a child so a piece of themselves will live on.

HOW THE CHARACTER MAY PREPARE FOR THIS GOAL:
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POSSIBLE SACRIFICES OR COSTS ASSOCIATED WITH THIS GOAL:
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ROADBLOCKS WHICH COULD PREVENT THIS GOAL FROM BEING ACHIEVED:
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TALENTS & SKILLS THAT WILL HELP THE CHARACTER ACHIEVE THIS GOAL:
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WHAT'S AT STAKE IF THIS GOAL ISN'T MET?
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CLICHÉS TO AVOID:
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